Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Disconnection to Connection
When we feel disconnected from our partners, we can begin to question ourselves. Our relationships may begin to lack emotional and physical intimacy. Conflict is at an all time high and both partners are feeling the irritability. Communication is slipping and resentment may start to creep in. We may start to blame our partner’s for not showing up in ways we would like, or we start to blame ourselves for not being able to make the relationship work. It’s hard and it begins to affect other areas of our life.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a humanistic approach to couples therapy drawing from theories of attachment to create deep connection and security to self and others. Through EFT, couples begin to identify and transform negative interaction patterns that create distress. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy allows the therapist to guide the couple into their own emotional experience while opening up to their partner and creating a secure attachment bond that is in our human nature.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT/EFCT) please see my About Me page for more details on my training.
What happens in Couples Therapy?
Couples begin by sharing insight into their individual experiences and experiences in their relationships. They begin to identify areas that they would like to work on together. Throughout the therapeutic process, the couple will work toward opening up to their partner about their own internal experience while learning about the internal experience of their partner.
The couple will begin to notice that they have increased communication with their partner. They will notice that they feel more heard and understood by their partner. The couple will begin to experience more intimacy and connection as a result of increased awareness.
Couples therapy can be uncomfortable. We are opening up areas that you may have never shared with your partner or communicating in ways that are different from what you’re used to. My goal as the therapist is to help both partners expand into the discomfort together to allow for vulnerability in a safe space.
“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection”
—Brené Brown